"Eroticism lives in the imagination."
"Eroticism lives in the imagination."
Since its 2006 publication, Mating in Captivity has sparked a cultural conversation about modern love. Here are just a few of the reviews:
“For 20 years, Mating in Captivity has stood as one of the most honest explorations of modern love… In a world obsessed with image and performance, Esther keeps bringing us back to the truth of what it means to connect, to want, and to be seen.”
“Esther embodies the exact qualities that make relationships strong: love, tenacity, honesty, and a ton of grace. Her embrace of our humanity—the beautiful and the disastrous—is why I turn to her work.”
“Esther Perel has the #1 secret to chemistry that lasts.”
“Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity is transformative. [It] laid the foundation for the conversations I can have with guests on Call Her Daddy and the way our society talks about modern relationships, love, and intimacy. It’s one of those books that I always come back to.”
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Experience the magic of Esther on tour as she brings her own brand of warmth, humor, and insights to a city near you. No judgement. Just a night of questions, stories, and in-person connection. Because as Esther says, “The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.”
In the twenty years since Mating in Captivity was published, it has become a global phenomenon, as has its author, Ether Perel. Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Mating in Captivity illuminates the complexities of sustaining desire in long-term relationships and shows how more playful, adventurous, and even poetic sex is possible.
In a new preface, Esther reveals the personal origin story behind Mating in Captivity and reflects upon the many cultural shifts since its publication.
“This book lived in whispers for a long time. People quietly passed underlined and dog-eared copies to one another….Over time, however, the world changed…. The conversation widened. Mating became, to my great astonishment, a cultural touchstone now translated into more than thirty languages.”
“As Mating’s readership grew, so did my clarity of purpose. I received letters every day from readers who did not have access to therapy but had found solace and recognition in Mating. I wanted to find more ways to bring insights from my office into the public square, to democratize the clinical tools of introspection and connection…. The most common reaction I received to the book was: I didn’t know other people were experiencing this. I was committed to changing that.”
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