Risk

Taking risks is not the same as being reckless. In fact, taking millions of micro-risks is how we build confidence—in ourselves, our partners, and our relationships.

“Taking calculated risks is about rebalancing our fundamental need for both security and freedom.”

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Risk

June 29, 2021

Want to Build Trust in Your Relationship? Take Risks

From the moment we come into this world to the moment we die, our survival instinct acts as a silent captain navigating every situation we face or desire. And at every step, a subconscious calculation is operating in the background: Is it worth the risk?

March 7, 2022

Letters from Esther: Inviting Vulnerability

If we want to allow deep intimate bonds to live and breathe in our relationships—we have to take on the risk that comes with invitation.

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Podcasts on

Risk

You Want Me To Watch The Kids While You Go Out With Another Guy?

They met as religious teenagers and married as virgins. It’s the age old story -- once you’re allowed to be intimate, you no longer want to be. Deciding to open the marriage has brought about huge changes in their sex life, and ruptures in their emotional one. Esther guides them towards a new conversation without labels.

Esther Calling - Never Been In a Long Term Relationship, Scared I Don't Know How To Do This

He's 42 and is in his first real relationship. And he's panicking. He's afraid he doesn't know how to be in a true romantic partnership. With Esther's help, he explores how his past has contributed to his fears of intimacy and abandonment.

Esther Calling - He Doesn't Believe in Marriage, But I Can't Let Go of the Hope

When her younger sister gets engaged, a woman finds herself spiraling with unexpected grief and frustration. She’s spent years in relationships with men who shy away from marriage, and the news stirs up deeper childhood wounds—secrets about her family and questions of belonging. With Esther’s help, she begins to face the shame she’s carried and the tricky balance between wanting to be seen and wanting to stay true to herself.

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Courses

Turning Conflict Into Connection

Uncover why you keep having the same fights over and over again. Learn how to break free from habitual patterns and responses. Find peace and reconciliation even when you disagree.

Gain new insights in just one hour

Downloadable workbook filled with guided exercises

Improve conflicts with or without a partner

Playing with Desire

Uncover and learn how to speak about your desires. Bring more aliveness into your sex life. Create rich, erotic rituals. Cultivate a more vibrant and fulfilling erotic relationship.

Perfect for date night

Playful exercises and prompts to tap into new erotic possibilities

Based on the same processes Esther has used to help real couples for 40+ years

Bringing Desire Back

Uncover what blocks desire. Learn how to tap back into pleasure and get unstuck. Discover a new sense of hope and possibility.

Perfect for date night

Guided exercises to turn insights into action and understanding

Based on the same processes Esther has used to help real couples for 40+ years

The Desire Bundle

Two courses designed to help you and your partner break out of sexual ruts, explore new possibilities, and build deeper connection.

Understand, communicate, and explore your sexual needs

Spark honest and constructive conversations about sex and desire

Designed to reignite curiosity, intimacy, and deeper connection in your sex life