Conflict is intrinsic to every relationship. Learn how to make it productive.
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Join Esther as she helps you unpack the real reasons you’re fighting, so you can address the issues head on.
Whether you blow up, shut down, or avoid conflict altogether, there’s a reason for it. Start uncovering why.
Use your newfound knowledge to learn how to reconcile, repair, and find peace even when you disagree.
Individuals and couples who feel stuck in a painful cycle of conflict.
Even couples that don’t “fight” have conflict. This course will show you how to embrace, work with, and better respond to disagreements when they arise.
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If you respond the same way every time a problem arises — we’ll help you identify and break the patterns keeping you stuck.
If you’re seeking change, the best place to start is with yourself. This course will help you grow your capacity for productive conflicts, with or without a partner.
Conflict is a part of every relationship. There is a difference, however, between “constructive” fighting that is useful and “destructive” fighting that is problematic. We’ll learn the difference and the three main fighting styles.
Couples are often so focused on what they're fighting about, they fail to address what they're fighting for. In this Module, you'll identify which hidden dimension is causing your fights to escalate so you can zoom out and gain new perspective.
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In this Module you'll learn strategies for de-escalating. You'll uncover you and your partners communication and conflict patterns, so you can choose new options.
Learn how to make a real apology that heals the wounds of conflict. These frameworks will help you live in harmony despite disagreements.
This course helps you manage your differences so you can understand better and connect deeper with others.
Learn what you do and why. There are no cookie-cutter steps. It’s as unique as you
You can’t change your partner, but you can change the pattern. You’ll learn how.
The perfect place to start, or to continue, working on your relationships.
After 30 years of a monogamous relationship I am navigating the complexities of a new friendship. There have been communication difficulties so I am seeking to understand myself better and the other person. The most valuable concepts I have learned are Fundamental Attribution Error and Confirmation bias and how confirmation bias can poison a relationship. I have learned to stay in the green brain and life is so much better. A very valuable course still work to do with the toolset. Thank you Esther.
I want to be still more at ease and happy in my lifelong relationship with my partner, already over 50 years now. Since 5 years we are retired and are in a new circumstance that we life in a community since then, where we both experience completely different things and quarrel about it a lot. I got from the course that it is more complicated now, because of this triangel I am in with my partner. I have to unravel what belongs to our relationship and what is about (my communication in) the community I realised that this situation made me quite fulnerable and unsure. Just to realise that the main conflict is an inner-conflict in my self!!! Just to reflect on and mention in my conversation with my partner on which part of the triangel I am working will already help me and us and is a great deal to be aware of the coming weeks.
The course appealed to me because conflict, for me, especially in my marriage, is often a way one street that leads to nowhere. Hearing the "broken record" over and over, wondering why are we here again and why can we not resolve this is frustrating, lonely and at times hopeless. Esther brings her deep understanding of relationships and human nature along with her passion and warmth to really dig down past the repeated patterns and open up a more holistic view of why we fight, why conflict plays out with the same responses over and over again and how we can break the cycle. I am glad that I took some quiet time to complete the workbook as it helped me to integrate Esther's teachings on a more personal level and allowed me to open up mine and my partner's patterns of conflict. For me, if I can see one thing that will change in my personal relationship since completing the course, it is to step back and observe with kindness my partner's responses and relax my defensiveness. This course brings a rich and sophisticated intelligence to love and relationships.
I needed some guidance to help couples during parenting sessions. I found that the child was not the problem but they were! and I needed some pointers to steer them towards resolving their issues.
I've admired Esther Perel's work since discovering her a few years ago, so when I was facing conflict gridlock in my relationship with my partner and saw this course, I knew a $99 investment wasn't even a question. The course delivered! We both watched the videos and discussed the content together. The workbook was very helpful too. The fact that we can rewatch the content as many times as is necessary, really is the icing on the cake. Esther gives not only keen insight as to why our conflict is repetitive and "not very creative," but most importantly, she offers concrete tools to change the patterns all of us fall into. Especially enlightening were what lies behind the fights we have, and how they aren't really what we think we're fighting about. I feel empowered to make real change, and in this era of distraction and low attention spans, the efficient use of time in the materials is invaluable. I will be using humor much more than in the past, and I also plan to choose my battles much more carefully, be more curious instead of reactive, and have more compassion for my partner.
Turning Conflict Into Connection is a self-paced course with exercises created by, but not directed by Esther. She will not be providing real-time therapy or feedback to course participants.
A relationship is made up of the people within it. When one of those people changes, the dynamic of the relationship also changes. If your partner is unwilling or unable to join you in learning about desire, you will still benefit from learning this material on your own.
Your purchase of Turning Conflict Into Connection includes access for both you and your partner. We invite you to watch the videos together and share the log-in credentials, if necessary. We are not able to provide a separate log-in. If your partner requires access in a separate account, please have them purchase the course.
If you watch all the videos and complete all the exercises, it should take you 5–10 hours to complete the entire course.
When you purchase Turning Conflict Into Connection, you'll receive a collection of lessons and exercises along with a robust workbook. We recommend that you plan time to watch each lesson and complete the accompanying exercise before moving on to the next lesson.
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If you are completing the course with a partner, we suggest watching the videos together and working through the exercises individually. After you have both completed the exercises, come back together to share your responses and have a conversation about your answers and relationship.
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If you treat this course as entertainment to be consumed, you may find it entertaining and pick up some new perspectives along the way. On the other hand, if you treat this course as a guide for engaging in new behaviors, thoughts, and ideas, and you take the time to complete each exercise, it’s our hope that you’ll learn something truly new, deeply interesting, and incredibly valuable that will help you navigate relationships of all kinds for the rest of your life.
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Whether you binge the course, work through the exercises as an intensive study for date night, or stretch it out over weeks or months is up to you. Do what is best for you.
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