Crisis

We all respond to crises in different ways, but the people who actually cope well in crisis are those who cultivate what Viktor Frankl called “tragic optimism”: “the human capacity to creatively turn life’s negative aspects into something positive or constructive.”

“Crisis acts as an accelerator and an amplifier.”

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Crisis

June 7, 2022

Letters from Esther: How Are You?

In response to tragedy after tragedy, many of us are cycling through fight, flight, and freeze responses faster than we can finish a cup of coffee—myself included.

August 22, 2023

Letters from Esther: "Why is it so hard to take a break?"

When crisis is all around us, rest and play can feel self-indulgent, but both are essential ingredients of our life force.

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Crisis

When I'm Manic I Cheat

Bipolar, infidelity, open relationships: they're stuck in a world of loaded words. Her friends are convinced she should leave, but she doesn't want to follow in her mother's footsteps. Programming note: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

On Again/Off Again

They've been on and off for almost 20 years. While she takes care of his and their child, she wants to know that he's also there for her. He's been battling depression for years. And the shame that comes with it.

Love the Child, Not the Father

Theirs is an accelerated love story. They moved in, decided to have a baby, and are now struggling to weather the hardships of parenting together. She feels unsupported and like she's the only adult in the room. He is overwhelmed and constantly feels put down by her. They have split up emotionally but not yet physically. Esther helps them sort through the power, gender, and trust issues that so often arise with new parents to see if it's enough to help them find their way back.

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Turning Conflict Into Connection

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