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Everyone comes to work with a relationship legacy. They bring the hidden histories of their other work relationships, as well as the ones that they grew up with at home. When we begin to recognize these unseen dynamics, we can learn the tools that will help us understand and manage them.

“The quality of our relationships at work determines the quality of our work—and our capacity to stay, to care, to thrive.”

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May 12, 2025

Letters from Esther: The Work Between Us

We are living through a profound rupture in how we relate to work and the people with whom we work. It’s confusing. It’s tender. And it’s very, very human.

December 16, 2019

What Couples Therapy Can Teach Us About Conflict in the Workplace

When people say you should bring your whole self to work, my response is always this: They already do.

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Esther Calling - I’m Afraid of Losing More Than Just the Business

She’s watching the company she co-founded unravel—strained partnerships, family entanglements, and the weight of guilt, anger, and responsibility pulling her in every direction. Now she wants to ask Esther: how can she protect her relationship with her brothers but still free herself to move on to what’s next?

Breaking News Has Broken Us

This is a classic session of How's Work? A large and scattered network of journalists meet for a virtual session with Esther. Over the past year, they've reported on the biggest stories of their careers, but they are burned out, isolated, grieving, and disconnected from the very thing that supports and energizes them all: their newsroom.

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Security vs Freedom

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Courses

Turning Conflict Into Connection

Uncover why you keep having the same fights over and over again. Learn how to break free from habitual patterns and responses. Find peace and reconciliation even when you disagree.

Gain new insights in just one hour

Downloadable workbook filled with guided exercises

Improve conflicts with or without a partner

Playing with Desire

Uncover and learn how to speak about your desires. Bring more aliveness into your sex life. Create rich, erotic rituals. Cultivate a more vibrant and fulfilling erotic relationship.

Perfect for date night

Playful exercises and prompts to tap into new erotic possibilities

Based on the same processes Esther has used to help real couples for 40+ years

Bringing Desire Back

Uncover what blocks desire. Learn how to tap back into pleasure and get unstuck. Discover a new sense of hope and possibility.

Perfect for date night

Guided exercises to turn insights into action and understanding

Based on the same processes Esther has used to help real couples for 40+ years

The Desire Bundle

Two courses designed to help you and your partner break out of sexual ruts, explore new possibilities, and build deeper connection.

Understand, communicate, and explore your sexual needs

Spark honest and constructive conversations about sex and desire

Designed to reignite curiosity, intimacy, and deeper connection in your sex life