Bestselling Books

Written by Esther Perel

The State of Affairs

4.6
5000+ Reviews on Amazon

In The State of Affairs, Esther takes a look at modern relationships through the lens of infidelity. Affairs have a lot to teach us about the human heart. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, she invites you into an honest exploration of coupling in all its many variations.

Mating in Captivity

4.6
9000+ Reviews on Amazon

In the twenty years since Mating in Captivity was published, it has become a global phenomenon, as has its author, Ether Perel. Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Mating in Captivity illuminates the complexities of sustaining desire in long-term relationships and shows how more playful, adventurous, and even poetic sex is possible.

Esther Perel is the world’s foremost expert on relationships—at home and at work.

She is a renowned psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author known for exploring the intricacies of modern relationships, intimacy, and desire. Through her books, live events, and hit podcast Where Should We Begin?, she’s helped millions navigate the complex terrain of love, sex, and connection.
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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Join Esther in her office every Monday to listen in as real couples in search of help bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories.
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