Playing with Desire
WHAT YOU’LL GAIN
Learn how to unlock eroticism and create more satisfying sexual experiences together.
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WHO IT’S FOR
Couples looking for new ways to enhance intimacy, have more open conversations about sex, or enjoy even more pleasure.
Learn how to use curiosity and willingness to foster eroticism, increase desire, and create more satisfying experiences together.
Breathe new life into your daily routines by creating erotic rituals unique to your relationship and desires.
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Discover and explore each others’ pleasure points with the help of playful prompts and hands-on exercises.
Esther Perel is the world’s foremost expert on relationships—at home and at work.
Module:
1
Becoming an Erotic Couple
In this module, you’ll learn about eroticism, the influence of your sexual history on your current erotic experiences, and how to turn routine “maintenance sex” into an erotic and pleasurable ritual.
Module:
2
Awakening the Senses
In this module, you’ll discover the seven verbs that shape the way we love and how to use them. You’ll also find multiple hands-on exercises to explore with your partner to engage your senses and tap into the erotic.
Module:
3
You & Me & Us
In this module, you’ll learn the distinction between love and desire and how they each play into the erotic landscape. You’ll also discover why fantasy and imagination are so crucial to cultivating eroticism.
WHY IT WORKS
This course helps you uncover your specific wants to create unique-to-you erotic experiences.
By mapping your Erotic Blueprint first, you’ll be able to make the most of each lesson, self-reflection, and interactive exercise throughout the course.
Each insight, suggestion, and exercise is a next step you can take toward a more vibrant erotic relationship that you define for yourself.
Each lesson offers easy-to-implement suggestions for embracing eroticism and revitalizing your sexual connection.
What others are saying...
I was asked to be an early reviewer for this course. I learned that sex, our sexual experience, is not a singular event, arriving, lingering for some period of time and then over. Our sexual life is always with us, via thoughts, smells, dreams, imagination, touch, sights and other senses. What has changed for me is increased awareness of the notion of the erotic. It is a liberating and expansive notion allowing all manner of pleasures into my daily life. I found this course, with its' focus on enhanced communication and deepening self-awareness, incredibly valuable as a 77 year old women, happily married to my wife for 32 years and knowledgeable about interpersonal communication. It is a rare combination of experiential learning and profound wisdom.
I've been following Esther for years and have seen her speak at psychology conferences, always in a clear, direct manner, with the perfect blend of wisdom and a touch of humour. This course does not disappoint. In this fast-paced, automatic world where everything is immediate, desire and eroticism have a different rhythm. Connecting with oneself is fundamental to connecting with another, without rush, immediacy, and certainly not on autopilot. This course mande me reflect and look at desire through a different lens, a trip inside oneself and an invitation to use our imagination and bring our senses back to life. Each video is excellent, and the way the content is translated into concrete exercises is very valuable. The workbook is particularly helpful as it provides a summary of what Esther talks about, making it easy to follow the instructions. You can always re watch the videos if you missed something or clarify what you learned. I take away many learnings, but the one that has resonated with me the most is about reconnecting with my senses, imagination and the playfulness and being opened and willing to see what happens when we stay 3 minutes more instead of shutting down. Thank you Esther Perel and her team, your work helps so many and what a wonderful gift to be able to take these courses and learn from you.
In my eight year relationship with my husband we have continued to navigate the impacts of the pandemic, career growth and loss, moving and adoption on our desire. This course made me feel grounded in my ability to reach across the divide and provided tools and framework to hold steady as we rock our way through the sometimes stormy seas of arousal.
Bought the bundle even though I mainly wanted to work on my desire. I was positively suprised by "playing with desire"! It's thoughtful, motivating, suprising, effective, and takes some unusual angles. Really loved the concept of the "erotic couple". Thank you Esther, you made tapping into desire and desiring desire so good.
I came to this course having followed Ester's work for some years. I was excited to have a platform and structure with which to embark on a journey of learning and discovery with my partner and the course gave me that and more. I'm so excited to take the course and all I learned into my relationship and see where the journey takes us!
Frequently Asked Questions
Does this course address asexuality?
Playing with Desire is designed to help only those interested in enhancing eroticism in their relationship. If you or your partner identify as asexual, know that asexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation; this lack of desire is not something to be overcome. However, it cannot be denied that one partner’s asexual identity can greatly impact a non-asexual partner. Though Playing with Desire might help you bring more playfulness and levity into your relationship, I invite you to instead consider working with a trained relational psychotherapist specializing in asexuality. They will be able to help you explore the many other arrangements that may be necessary for your unique situation.
Start enhancing your erotic relationships today.
The Desire Bundle
Get both Bringing Desire Back and Playing with Desire and gain the skills to not only address desire discrepancies but also reignite desire and explore new erotic possibilities.
Where Should We Begin?
A Game of Stories
At Work
At Work
Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Sessions Live 2026
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