After 30 years of a monogamous relationship I am navigating the complexities of a new friendship. There have been communication difficulties so I am seeking to understand myself better and the other person. The most valuable concepts I have learned are Fundamental Attribution Error and Confirmation bias and how confirmation bias can poison a relationship. I have learned to stay in the green brain and life is so much better. A very valuable course still work to do with the toolset. Thank you Esther.
I want to be still more at ease and happy in my lifelong relationship with my partner, already over 50 years now. Since 5 years we are retired and are in a new circumstance that we life in a community since then, where we both experience completely different things and quarrel about it a lot. I got from the course that it is more complicated now, because of this triangel I am in with my partner. I have to unravel what belongs to our relationship and what is about (my communication in) the community I realised that this situation made me quite fulnerable and unsure. Just to realise that the main conflict is an inner-conflict in my self!!! Just to reflect on and mention in my conversation with my partner on which part of the triangel I am working will already help me and us and is a great deal to be aware of the coming weeks.
The course appealed to me because conflict, for me, especially in my marriage, is often a way one street that leads to nowhere. Hearing the "broken record" over and over, wondering why are we here again and why can we not resolve this is frustrating, lonely and at times hopeless. Esther brings her deep understanding of relationships and human nature along with her passion and warmth to really dig down past the repeated patterns and open up a more holistic view of why we fight, why conflict plays out with the same responses over and over again and how we can break the cycle. I am glad that I took some quiet time to complete the workbook as it helped me to integrate Esther's teachings on a more personal level and allowed me to open up mine and my partner's patterns of conflict. For me, if I can see one thing that will change in my personal relationship since completing the course, it is to step back and observe with kindness my partner's responses and relax my defensiveness. This course brings a rich and sophisticated intelligence to love and relationships.
I needed some guidance to help couples during parenting sessions. I found that the child was not the problem but they were! and I needed some pointers to steer them towards resolving their issues.
I was asked to be an early reviewer for this course. I learned that sex, our sexual experience, is not a singular event, arriving, lingering for some period of time and then over. Our sexual life is always with us, via thoughts, smells, dreams, imagination, touch, sights and other senses. What has changed for me is increased awareness of the notion of the erotic. It is a liberating and expansive notion allowing all manner of pleasures into my daily life. I found this course, with its' focus on enhanced communication and deepening self-awareness, incredibly valuable as a 77 year old women, happily married to my wife for 32 years and knowledgeable about interpersonal communication. It is a rare combination of experiential learning and profound wisdom.
Get both Bringing Desire Back and Playing with Desire and gain the skills to not only address desire discrepancies but also reignite desire and explore new erotic possibilities.
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