Intimate Relationships

“Tell me how you were loved and I will tell you how you make love.”

The psychology of our desires didn’t start when we found our partners. What gives us intense pleasure sometimes comes from very dimly-lit places inside of ourselves, and from experiences that were actually quite painful. Our imagination compensates for what was missing, and for what may be missing now. Sexual fantasies reveal our deepest emotional needs. And we often rely on our closest intimate relationships to help us put together the pieces of ourselves.

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