Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever?

    In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our culture penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn’t always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms. While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel’s take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the “X” back in sex.

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    What are people saying about "Mating in Captivity"?

    Enthralling book about love, intimacy and about being a couple today.

    … a compelling and intelligent book about what it means to be a couple today…
    Michele Scheinkman (USA)

    Mating in Captivity

    …articulates a poignant and unacknowledged modern crisis for the first time.
    The Evening Standard (London)

    An excellent book

    …full of provocative prose and entertaining case illustrations.
    Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy

    A charming blend of wit and wisdom

    …this book will give you a fresh perspective on long-term love.
    Gold Coast Bulletin (Australia)


    She doesn’t overreach. A book and a voice that gently straddles the space between our private and public expressions of our sexuality. A warm wet resource for individuals in relationships that have gone dry.
    Stephen Vanek (Dallas, Texas)

    A wonderful read.

    Insightful, informative and at times eye opening about the things we don’t say in relationships. A must read for anyone who wants to know more about how to love.
    I. Pal (California, USA)